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So while fertility may be an issue for women sexuality because one for men! I have created a child when I was 24. And we wonder why we have so many unhappy relationships.

I still want my own children. Last year, I dated a girl who was 22 years old, nearly half my age. Additionally, my own father took off when I was very young and left my limbo and I with absolutely nothing. Yes, I know that men and women lie on their dating profiles. And women should be aware of the risks of having children with older men. It is really usually not FUN to date a man in that age bracket.

Nowhere does he say he intended to trick women. The risks are not that big. Again, I was very clear in my profile what my real age was. It is PC bullshit.

How to Get Married After 35 - There is also -no- western fabrication that says older women are more valuable than younger women, it is the opposite. Another friend and co-worker of mine who met his now ex-wife in drug rehab also caught her red handed banging his best friend.

Helena grew up in small town America -- Conway, Arkansas, population 3,000. Although they were very alone, her mother impressed upon her at an early age a strong sense of her Jewish identity, which was to survive all her travels and experiences. After high school, Helena traveled to New York to pursue a career in book publishing. She has always been a big believer in visualizing her goals and then pursuing them with energy and drive. She worked for the New Yorker, Random House and as a senior editor at the Village Voice before Hollywood beckoned. She produced issue-oriented docudramas -- a fulfilling but crazy and stress-filled existence. Her friend seemed happier than she'd ever seen her. I want some of that, Helena thought. So she began attending Torah study classes. At one of Aish HaTorah's High Holiday learning services she met Charlie, the man who would later become her husband. He stuck around, and 12 months later they were married. Not content to bask in her personal happiness, Helena wanted to help others. She believed strongly in her method of dating and felt such regret over the time she had wasted. She began to formulate some principles and strategies. Action is far superior to complaining. As part of this campaign, Helena stayed away from negative people, from those who would bring her down or sabotage her goals. Having dated her share of ineligible men, she is grateful to have woken up in time and would like to spare others unnecessary pain. She began coaching, leading her friends and acquaintances to the same realizations and constructive steps that she had taken. These sessions were the genesis and foundation of her book which was picked up by Harper -Collins and eventually led to a whirlwind tour of talk shows, including Good Morning America, Jane Pauley, Fox News and about 80 different radio interviews. Helena loved it -- it was an opportunity to get the word out there and discuss her favorite subject. Here is a taste of Helena's advice: 1. Resolve to make your personal life a priority. A woman who wants a partner for life needs to be as directed in her romantic pursuits as she is about her career, her workout routine, or her skin care. My experience as a therapist and relationship coach has confirmed for me that women who marry into their 30s, 40s and beyond are most often the ones for whom the idea of getting married carries real weight, and who make choices that echo that priority. You've spent enough years behaving as though marriage didn't matter to you. Now that it does, live as though you care. Visualize your marital future. Successful people rarely achieve their goals without first imagining their ability to succeed. By firmly keeping in mind a positive visual image of yourself as a married person, you come that much closer to being a married person. Don't view your singleness as a permanent condition. See yourself as someone who simply hasn't as yet found her match -- you're a married-woman-in-waiting! Appreciate the good life that you have but picture how much richer it could be with a partner by your side. So, while you are quite capable of doing most everything for yourself, you also allow men to do things for you without feeling diminished by their contribution. You are not pretending to be weak or incompetent; you are merely allowing others to feel appreciated in a direct and concrete way. Similarly, you are able to envision yourself making certain adjustments in order to blend your life with someone else's -- relocating to another city, perhaps, or becoming a stepmother. The operative image here is that you picture yourself becoming part of a dynamic team rather than continuing life as a solo player. Remove any obstacles that have kept you single. This presupposes that you know what those obstacles are. Maybe you simply haven't met the right person. Or you've spent most of your time up to now getting an education or nurturing a career. Then again, you might admit that you're a perfectionist and no one has measured up to your standards. Or you stopped dating to avoid disappointment and hurt. Even answers that sound logical on the surface can mask deeper things about you; it may be true, for example, that you haven't yet met the right person, but it may also be true that you haven't made any efforts to widen your social circle. It's easier to move forward in your personal life once you've honestly assessed what has held you back and have separated reasonable explanations from elaborate rationalizations. Admitting that you'd like to get married does not signal an affliction; it's merely a defensible life goal. Take that brown paper bag off your head and proudly proclaim to friends and co-workers that you are interested in fix-ups and introductions to appropriate prospects. We often worry that revealing such desires will cast us in an embarrassing or unflattering light, as though wanting a spouse and asking for help were a weakness or a cause for shame. In fact, the desire to bond with a compatible partner is a strength, and one of the best ways to find an appropriate mate is to be introduced by a third party who knows both of you. Don't jump to hasty negative conclusions about new men you meet. It's easy to dismiss a good man if sparks don't fly between the two of you by the time you've ordered the steamed artichoke appetizer. For the most part, the best men translation: kind, honest, reliable, marriage-minded will not be the ones who dazzle you from the get-go but those who wear well over time. Get off the road if it isn't taking you where you need to go. Today you are dating for a reason, not for fun. This means you must eradicate all unmarriageable men from your dating life. Stay on course by ruthlessly casting off all game players, narcissists, professional bachelors, mama's boys, and other lousy bets. A man who is in his late forties and has never been married probably won't be marrying you either. Neither will the guy you've been seeing on and off for five years who still won't commit. These nowhere men must be given their walking papers to make room for the genuinely marriageable men who are waiting to meet you. Unfortunately, the time you waste with unmarriageable men can never be recaptured, so do an early spring-cleaning and get all energy vampires out of your life at once. The best way to get more out of life is to appreciate fully the one you have. Waking up every day with a sense of appreciation makes you more content, and the more content you are, the more likely you are to be a magnet for others, including eligible men. If you are not optimistic and appreciative by nature, practice being optimistic and appreciative. Find small things to be grateful for. Feel thankful for what you might otherwise take for granted -- your good health, for example, or a dazzling sunset. Make it a habit every day to affirm the beauty in life and more of life's beauty will come your way. For information about Helena's psychotherapy services within the state of California, her nationwide relationship coaching services via telephone, or her availability for public speaking and media appearances, please send an email to: Due to the high volume of requests, Helena regrets she is unable to address individual relationship questions outside of regularly scheduled sessions. I have a family member who does extremely well with women and here are some things I have seen. Be positive and happy. People like people who are happy and having fun, no one wants to hear about someone's last divorce, or medical problems. Understand people work in several ways and try to meld with different styles. Be outgoing Organize events. Have a party, arrange an outing, and don't be afraid if you pick up an additional bill or outlay some money. If you do, there are now 20 people who owe you a favor. Dress well and in style. Stand up straight and smile 5. The first question for your network, how have I helped them, what did I bring to the table. Many popular people who date a lot are genuinely nice. Enjoy life Enjoy what you are doing. The women who are single wish they were married, the married ones complain about their husbands and the lack of free time, people working wish for retirement, retired people look back on their younger active days. Enjoy and cherish what you have now. Travel if you like. I had lived as if marriage didn't matter to cover my hurting heart while in a bad 25 year marriage, I took that thought into my single years. As soon as I read your tips it resignated with my heart; Marriage does matter. I am a married woman in waiting and I will set a priority of working towards my future marriage. Thank you and bless you. I am writing my fourth book Dating Backwards in which I will quote you. I find it difficult at 35 to go out and look for a partner for life. Every body knows that at 35 you want to settle, get married, have kids. Married or already in a relationship people in their 30's look at you with a pity, like if something is wrong with you. I live in a big city, all of my friends are either married or in a long term relationships, it's hard because I just don't know single people and have no idea how I'm going to find a partner for life. I understand what you're saying, but there ARE men out there. Look as good as you can, make a few online profiles, spend as little time as possible at home. Have coffee out of the house, exercise in a gym with men, go out on Saturday nights, and ask your married friends if their husbands have any siblings or friends who are single. My job is working with children so meeting adult men is difficult. I'm naturally more introverted so socializing and schmoozing isn't my thing either. Hi, I'm a 47 year old woman and frequently told I'm attractive, smart and fun. Yet, my lifestyle hours on the road commuting, long hours at work, etc. When I do, I seem to have gotten to a point where I find fault with each guy i. Are there other women out there in my same boat and if so, what have you been able to do to meet a great guy? Thanks for your advice! I'm glad Aish has provided this opportunity for us to share information!! We women cheat ourselves into finding the perfect mate,but the truth of the mater is that however we do,there will always be a fault. We were created to be a help mate to the man, not we together, nor, always, the way we would imagine it to be. For us women it is and will be impossible to figure or understand the gender. Thats what the Bible says. Therefore, dont look for one who is compatible to you, rather one who you would like to help assist in this life journey, knowing fully well that it is for life. I'm glad others commented on Helena's judgmental statement regarding mid-forties men and how they ought to be immediately dismissed as being marriage-minded, yet a mid-30s to 40s woman is within the realm of acceptability. I'm happy for Ms. Rosenberg that she found her husband and achieved fulfillment in her personal life, but I wouldn't be so quick to dismiss men who haven't found THEIR other half yet, either. I think that very attitude may be part of the problem. I did like this summary. I think that some of us that are getting closer to 40 are still great marrage matterial, but are just not as agressive about meeting people because it may be seen as desparate. I like how she looks at going out looking for someone can be an active thing, not just sitting around waiting for it to happen. This gave me some good ideas on where I can step up my game in looking for that right person... Men in their late 40's are valueble as much as women in their late 30's. The remark in the article supposes all women are great, but mid aged men are losers. I know some guy not wealthy in his mid 60's who married a girl in her mid 30's. They have now 2 kids. Every person must be given a fair chance. You don't know the story of a person until you meet him. God's way are mestirious. If you were Ruth - would you have dated Boaz? If you were Rebeca - would you have dated Itzchak? Don't overlook good oppertunities you are offered by god because of prejudice. You had many years to induldge this - now it is time to give him some credit. I totally agree with shoshana dvora a lot of jewish singles in montreal and other cities are singles and I feel they dont work hard enough to make connect jewish singles with other instead on working in other details they should work on jewish singles meeting its very important familly and children its more important than anything else some jewish singles dont have the chanse to meet and get married like other there not enough parties and oportunity for jewish singles this matter should be taken very seriously familly and children are the first priority in life I hope you can adresss this matter to people in each cities that can adress this matter and do something about it a lot of jewish singles are singles and nothing is done about it there always jewsih parties in other cities than montreal that all I have to say bye I really got a lot out of this article, thank you,Helena Rosenberg! In fact for some reason I find it a great article for anyone to read. I was only in my teens when I got married. Of course everything is for the good and I have no regrets at all for my marriage or divorce. I only regret whatever I have done at any time in my life that does not please the creator of the world. I find it crazy that some people think I have to be miserable to prove to them I am justifiably divorce! I see that some happy married people or even your regular normally happily married people, I see that things have passed them by as well. Although, I have a large family I still sit alone just like an single person when I go to hotels for pesach etc.. So I have been on both sides of the fence. However, I did get married young. I have endless respect for anyone single and without proper support or emunah for their future. Some of those people suffer their own selfish and zombie type problems, walking through life without even knowing how to reach out to others. That should always be the only regret anyone has. I have so much to say about the shidduch crisis. However, what I have learned after almost two decades of marriage to my first husband and the absolute torture of what I have gone though in my marriage and divorce is one thing. G-d sends us many messengers in life to send us all kinds of messages. We only have to merit to listen to them. Unfortunately, the only messages we sometimes here are the ones we stubbornly ignored. While I would never judge anyone single no matter what age. I have found that no matter what a person goes through in life, if he does not allow other to knock him down and ruin his hopes and dreams he will succeed. Everyone has the right to hope and dream and the master of the world has everyone''s life perfectly organized for their maximum benefit. In short, your relationship status does not make you who are are what you could of or can be. I hope somehow I have encouraged anyone who feels the pain of the clock and how it tortures the heart with every other beat. I have a large family and still, I cry in my heart for more children, for all the pain my husband and his family have in their pure foolishness caused me. It is the yesar horah striving on doubt and really we are all the same. I think all stigmas in the frum community are based on absolute ignorant''s and lack of parents educating their children. I hope every single person reading this should soon find the one in which his soul will delight in. If so many Jewish singles are suffering and not getting what they want in life, something must be going wrong... The Jewish community needs to take greater action on this problem. I believe its a eflection of lack of traditional values. It used to be that men and women were by and large compatible since they were raised in similar households with the same values. Now in this secular world we live in, men and women grow up with different ideas and outlooks about who they are and what they want their lives to be about. Instead of singles being more proactive and upbeat, what about the Jewish community doing more to address the crisis? Now in this secular world we live in, men and women grow up with different ideas and outlooks about who they are and what they want their lives to be about. No wonder we see so much divorce and singleness.